As Mother’s Day quickly approaches, it’s important to take a moment and appreciate the women in our lives who carry that all-encompassing title. As a mother of two and stepmom of two more myself, I know this role all too well. It’s a roller-coaster ride of silliness, hurt feelings and everything in between, all while trying to keep up with the ever-changing hats to adorn with a smile. This is a weighty task for anyone, and I often find myself lost while busily trying to keep up with all of the family demands and struggles. As mothers, we give so selflessly to our children with all the best intentions. So why is it so difficult to give this to ourselves?
There are several reasons for this. Often, we feel as though we don’t have the time or money to do anything special for ourselves. The logistics gets in the way. We also feel tremendous guilt for taking time away from the kids and our partners to do something on our own. It’s easier to exert our energy on the family than to take care of ourselves. With four children, I find that my needs are put on hold while making sure the kids needs and wants are fulfilled. When a moment does present itself, I’m in my head with thoughts of what I “should” be doing instead or knowing that I will eventually be interrupted with yet another request.
My own mom has always had the saying, “If mom isn’t happy, the whole house isn’t happy.” I think she is spot on with this adage. Moms are truly the foundation in which the whole family exists and operates from. If mom isn’t practicing self-care and taking the time out for herself to recharge her batteries, her parenting suffers. Her relationship with her partner suffers. She suffers.
It is important to recognize when your batteries are running low and you need to recharge. Some examples of not being mindful include:
Of course, attending a yoga class or practicing meditation are great ways to rebalance yourself and find inner peace. But there are additional solutions to incorporate self-care into our busy routines. Some mindfulness techniques that promote self-compassion include:
These techniques aren’t just used to renew your enthusiasm for mothering, they are also important for your health as well. Mindfulness has been proven to be beneficial for memory retention, emotion regulation, reducing stress, fighting off feelings of anxiety and depression, improving sleep and aiding in weight loss. All the things that moms need to keep being great moms, all while teaching kids the importance of their own self-care.
So on a day like Mother’s Day, take the time to tell the mom(s) in your life to practice self care not just for today, but everyday. She deserves it.
Written by Julie Hassler, LPC-Intern
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