Worrying about what others think limits you. How has worrying about what someone else might think kept you from doing something? Has it kept you from speaking up in a business meeting? Has it kept you from dancing at a party? Has it kept you from talking to that girl? Why do you avoid her when she only rejects you in your own mind? It’s like drawing boundaries with chalk based on your assumptions of what others think and then staying within those boundaries as if they were walls. It’s a man-made, imaginary prison.
People don’t think about you as much as you think they do. It is you who are preoccupied with you. And guess what? They are most likely preoccupied with themselves. They are worried about what other people think of them! And this doesn’t mean they don’t care about you or don’t like you. They just happen to have a locus of observation that originates outside of your head. So leave them to their perceptions, regardless of how much space you think you deserve to take up in their consciousness.
As we approach Valentine’s Day, I thought it would be fun to explore how mindfulness is an expression of love in relationships. Going beyond the Hallmark cards, roses, and chocolates bombarding us in every store and all over social media, the underlying message is the question of how we can show our loved ones we truly care for them. It seems that everyone is searching for a meaningful connection with someone else in this lonely world. Whether it’s a couple that is longing for more emotional or physical intimacy, a single woman terrified of being alone, or a child looking to his parents for reassurance that he’s good enough, they all appear to be searching for the same things: To be seen, heard, and cared about, just as they are.
I believe that practicing mindfulness provides a clear channel for connecting with other people in this way. Mindfulness is essentially the act of being compassionately present, awake, and aware of the here-and-now moment. When someone in our lives listens intently to what we have to say, and sees us for who we are without their own agenda clouding their vision, we tend to feel pretty special, accepted, and loved, just as we are.
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