What would happen if you placed your hand on a hot stove burner? Would you stand there with your hand on the stove? No. You would probably pull your hand away immediately to avoid getting burned.
Your body has numerous defenses to protect you from pain and injury including muscle tension and the Fight or Flight Response. Naturally we want to remove or distract ourselves from painful stimuli or situations. Similarly, our negative evaluation of pain can also serve as a safety mechanism. Such judgments make us vigilant and incite us to flee from immediate danger. Yet, what happens when physical pain and the anticipation of pain cannot be avoided and becomes a prolonged or permanent state.
Recently at an ‘80’s karaoke party, I paid tribute to Tina Turner by belting out one of my favorite tunes “Whoa-Oh-Oh! What’s love got to do – got to do with it? What’s love but a second-hand emotion?” Not sure I did the great Tina Turner justice on that night, but I can say I put my heart and soul into every off-key note! And it brought up an interesting, more specific question in my mind - What’s self-love got to do with our ability to fully give and receive love?
We’ve all heard that old saying that you can’t love another until you truly love yourself, and as we celebrate love in all its forms this month, I wanted to take a closer look at that statement to see how much truth it holds.
When working with couples, the one issue that frequently arises between partners is conflict. There are numerous reasons why couples argue (and definitely too many to list here) but all causes usually fit into three categories:
1. Couples may find that they have a perpetual, gridlocked issue that never seems to be resolved.
2. Couples may feel as though they are not heard, understood or validated by their partner.
3. Couples may feel that their partner turns away or against their bids for attention, affection or intimacy.
Rise and shine, campers!
That’s right, wood-chuck chuckers- it’s Groundhog Day… Wait, again?!
Have you ever had one of those days (or weeks!) where you feel stuck on a life-size hamster wheel- where one day flows into the next and nothing new or exciting is happening? Maybe you aren’t feeling engaged at work anymore… Maybe those New Year’s goals you set just haven’t been easy enough to get started on… Maybe, like Bill Murray in Groundhog Day, you’ve lost track of time and found yourself going through the motions day-in and day-out.
Whatever the wheel you might find yourself stuck on, there’s a good chance that someone else has been there too. It’s a part of being human.
So what do we do about it?
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