Written by Emily Holden, LPC-Intern
Reflecting on my goals for 2016, making note of January’s road blocks, I am reminded of the essential role that boundaries play in charting an intentional and meaningful life.
Just past the mile marker of February, now is the perfect rest stop if you will, to park your car, stretch your legs, and evaluate or recalculate your course on the proverbial map of life. Whether you are on track, have travelled in a circle, or steered completely off course to some ghost town, now is the time for you to simply note where your route was diverted or the detours you avoided to again choose where you want to go and how you want to get there.
If you are like most people, I will wage that your ability to set limits with and “say no” to the requests of people in your life played some part in helping or hindering your 2016 goals.
While some people are skilled in setting boundaries with family, friends, and colleagues, most people struggle to navigate these waters. Like shifting gears on a boat, setting boundaries calls for knowledge of your boat, the conditions, and ample practice.
Setting boundaries with other people can be challenging, especially if the other person is accustomed to your compliance or believes that you “should” do what he/she wants. It can be difficult to cope with automatic feelings of guilt or discomfort, or to face the blame and anger of others when you say no. Yet, it gets easier to set healthy boundaries that empower you and those in your life, if you remember WHY you are setting limits.
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