Written by Andrea Maldonado, LPC
October was National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, and as October came and went my husband and I lit our candle to memorialize the losses that we have encountered in years past. Loss of any kind can be traumatic and difficult, but loss of a baby, well that is probably the biggest pain I have ever personally experienced. It wasn’t just my pain either, it was my husband's, and our family’s, who had already come to love the little lives that ended.
For me, I think one of the hardest parts of the experience was how isolating that kind of grief can be. I was lucky enough to have a few friends at the time who had experienced pregnancy loss, and were available for us, but the majority of my circle of friends and family had, surprisingly, little to no experience with the subject. I could feel that they wanted to be there to support my husband and I, but it’s difficult on the other side to know “the right thing” to say.
Written by Jiovann Carrasco, LPC-S
The fact that you’re reading this right now on a computer screen or a smartphone or tablet, just goes to show that you have so, so much to be thankful for. Sure, when you think about how over 600 million people in developing nations go without access to clean drinking water, it’s easy to acknowledge your relative privilege. But how long does that usually last? Why is it so easy to forget how many things we really do have going for us?
Our brains may be rigged to take things for granted. We tend to adapt to our comforts and privileges and come to expect them. On an evolutionary level, our brains are set up to keep us alive. That means we are naturally more alert to threats and danger than we are to how good we have it. Fear and scarcity is given higher priority by default.
The good news is we don’t have to live our lives on default. We don’t have to remain on automatic pilot. We can choose what is important to focus on. And the more we focus on what is good, the more good we see. And the more good we see, the more grateful we are, and a positive feedback loop is created.
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