Let’s be honest. It’s hard for the average, “mentally healthy” adult to find the time, energy, and focus to create a consistent meditation practice. Now imagine if you are a child diagnosed with ADHD. Although countless research has shown that mindfulness proves beneficial young adults diagnosed with ADHD that research also indicates that it is nearly impossible for a person diagnosed with ADHD to meditate because they cannot focus their mind enough to attain a meditative state (Brown and Gerbarg 2012). However, there are other options that are just as holistic, healthy, and helpful as meditation. Try a few of these fun and effective techniques with your child today and help set the foundation of focus needed for them to move into a more mindful existence.
Think back to when you were a kid. Standing in front of the mirror, pretending to be a master of the martial arts, you would punch the air and scream HA! Did you know that you were engaging in a focus building activity? Well neither will your child. For thousands of years many traditions have used some form of this breathing technique to increase mental alertness. This activity can be most beneficial to your child right before sitting down to do their homework.
· Stand up straight, bend the elbows, palms pointed upward, and fingers curved into loose fists.
· Inhale deeply through the nose while retracting the elbows behind the back, palms facing upward, hands in fists.
· As you exhale sharply, say the sound “HA!” loudly, extend the arms and throw the hands forward, letting the palms turn downward as though you are flinging water off the tips of your fingers.
· Continue at a brisk pace for fifteen repetitions.
Children in general have a lot of energy. If this energy is not properly released it can build up and become tension in the body. This tension makes it very hard to focus on any task or simply relax. Just think about how hard it is for many of us to loosen up after sitting behind a desk hunched over a computer all day. Cat and Cow are two complimentary yoga poses that kids absolutely enjoy and they help to relieve tension so your child can relax after a long day. Right before bed tonight try this.
· Come on to your hands and knees, spread the fingers wide, and look towards the floor.
· Inhale slowly and deeply, bring the tailbone up towards the sky and allow the belly to drop down towards the ground, and look forward like a cow.
· Exhale, bring the chin to the chest, and arch the back towards the ceiling like a cat.
· Continue at a slow pace for twelve repetitions.
· Make animal sounds for the first six, and then try to focus on the sound of the breath.
How do you get a child to sit still and focus? Turn sitting still into a challenging game that you two can engage in together. Don’t you remember trying to balance a book on your head as a child? At that time you probably were not aware of the fact that, if facilitated correctly, the act of balancing an object could have been a beneficial form of meditation. Simply ask your child to sit with you, and see how long you guys can balance a book, pillow, ball, or pencil on your head. When engaged in these tasks, children inevitably become still and quiet because they innately understand that focus is required to “win the game.” After a few weeks of actual practice, when out in public, you can simply tell them to pretend as if they are balancing a book on their head, and they will immediately become still and quiet.
All children, whether diagnosed with ADHD or not, will have to learn ways of overcoming distraction, restlessness, and impulsivity in order to focus on learning, completing tasks, and understanding social cues. Mindfulness is one of the best tools we have available to build those skills in our children but at the same time we must become more mindful parents; aware of the way we present the material and relate to our children. That is the true focus.
Written by Brentom Jackson, LPC-Intern
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