What made you decide to become a counselor?
Seeing a counselor helped me get through a rough time in my life. She showed me the power of being present with another person and help them embrace themselves in the here and now. Counseling is my life’s passion and I love my work.
If you could teach the world one skill or technique to improve their lives, what would it be?
I would teach self-compassion and self-acceptance. Many of us constantly compare ourselves to others and inwardly demean ourselves and our bodies for falling short. We struggle to please others so that we can feel good about ourselves but later we find that we have lost ourselves in the process. Only by learning to embrace ourselves - flaws and all – we can fill our own well with compassion and give to others freely from the overflow.
What is the most common problem your clients bring to you?
Anxiety. Living in this Information Age is more stressful than we realize. We have forgotten the art of contemplation and self-reflection. Think of the farmer who plowed the fields a hundred years ago. He spent hours walking with his only view the back of the mule. He would spend that time allowing his mind to reflect on all that was important to him with little or no distractions. Today we are constantly bombarded with messages that we need this or that to be enough. Our minds are overwhelmed with processing information and our emotions follow each thought. We are consumed with doing several things at a time and have forgotten the art of being. I love watching children play because they know how to just be. They have not forgotten that now is all there is.
Have you personally been in counseling and if so, what did you learn about yourself?
I find personal counseling extremely helpful. Therapy helps me stay on track and prioritize my own self- care. I have learned that judging myself harshly in the past simply amplified my problems and drained me of the energy I needed to be there for the people I loved. I learned that it is not only okay but necessary to put the oxygen mask on myself first so I could help others.
If you could recommend one book to all your clients, what would it be?
The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner.
What inspires you to help others?
I believe we all deserve to have a sense of well-being and inner contentment. I have the honor and privilege of helping my clients find that for themselves.
Who is your ideal client?
My ideal client is willing to enter the process of healing. Sometimes a client has lost all sense of hope so I can offer that they borrow my hope for them until they can experience it for themselves. Sometimes we begin by dipping a toe in the water and asking for willingness to go farther. There are no rules for how and when readiness comes.
How do you personally practice self-care?
Meditation and morning journaling help set me in an attitude of gratitude to begin my day. Walking a nature trail or just putting on music and dancing at home is the perfect ending to my day. I see my therapist as needed and do something creative every week. I often write poetry and paint on canvas and get on the floor with my grandchildren and play.
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