Couples counseling helps couples understand and resolve conflicts and improve their relationship by gaining tools for better communication, how to negotiate differences and problem solve in a healthy manner. You may need only a few sessions to help you get through a rough patch or a crisis. Or, if the relationship has deteriorated a great deal, you may need to devote several months to building it back up to a healthy state. We define "couple" to be any two people, regardless of sex or marital status, who are in a romantic relationship with one another.
Couples seek counseling for a variety of reasons:
4 Myths About Relationships
Part of why relationships can be so difficult is that many of us have grown up with unrealistic expectations about love. We've grown up with Hollywood and fairytale endings. How many romantic comedies have you seen where the credits roll over a celebratory wedding scene? That's not the end of the story, it's just the beginning! So it's no surprise that we think this is how it's suppose to go after we become adults and get into serious committed relationships. So here are 4 popular myths about relationships adapted from ACT With Love by Russ Harris.
1. The Perfect Partner. The ONE. That's a lot of pressure to put on someone. There's not just one person out there that is suppose to meet all of your needs. You can fall in love dozens of times in a lifetime and any one of those people are going to disappoint you in some way. It's not fair to expect another human to be a perfect anything.
2. You Complete Me. You are complete with or without a partner. This myth is not only inaccurate, it's not healthy. If you are not whole to begin with, you have no business expecting someone else to fill you up. They just can't.
3. Love Should Be Easy. Nothing of value is ever easy. When things come easily, they are taken for granted.
4. Love is Forever. Most people in the Western world marry for love. Yet 60% of marriages end in divorce. Seven years is hardly forever. Love is a choice. It's something you can choose each day and it will last as long as you are choosing it. You don't need it to last forever. You're not at the end of your life, you only exist here and now. Love only works in the present moment.
So if you can let go of these popular myths, you have a great shot at bringing life back into your relationship, resolving pain, increasing intimacy, and building better communication skills. You will gain the tools to LOVE.
Learn to L.O.V.E.
L- Letting go of blame, resentment, criticisms, etc.
O- Opening up to and making space for difficult thoughts and feelings.
V- Valuing: Taking action guided by values such as caring, connection, and contribution.
E- Engaging: Being psychologically present and available.
These are the tools to building better relationships and we can facilitate these processes through effective couples counseling. Let us help you get the relationship you want!
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